"We are forgetting how to give presents....Instead we have charity, administered beneficence....In its organized operations there is no longer room for human impulses....Even private giving of presents has degenerated to a social function exercised with rational bad grace, careful adherence to the prescribed budget, sceptical appraisal of the other and the least possible effort. Real giving had its joy in imagining the joy of the receiver. It means choosing, expending time, going out of one's way, thinking of the other as a subject....
The decay of giving is mirrored in the distressing invention of gift-articles, based on the assumption that one does not know what to give because one really does not want to."
Theodor Adorno, "21./ Articles may not be exchanged", from
Minima Moralia.
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"Have nothing in your house that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful."
William Morris, who helped found the Arts and Crafts movement.
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A month or so ago, I read an article in
Crafts where the author thought about the purpose and nature of
Etsy. One thing that really struck me was her assertion that most of what is sold on Etsy falls in the category of 'giftware'. (And I'm just paraphrasing from memory here, so please, if you can find a copy of this issue go and read the article.)
I'd been thinking about gift in any case--earlier this year I decided not to give store-bought presents if I could, and to try to give people
only things I believed they would truly love, appreciate, and enjoy--and use. I wanted to stop giving people things because I felt obliged to, and to give presents instead out of a feeling of openness. I also wanted to get out from under the bizarre guilt I feel sometimes when I don't give someone 'enough'. What
is that? Most people I know have too much stuff (me included)--why should I feel guilty
not adding to that? Would a trinket I pick up at a giftshop really mean more than a letter? And what about my participation in the supply side? Are most of the things I make to sell made because they're
easy and saleable, or because I sense that they will be useful and beautiful, for me if not for others? Obviously what's beautiful and useful is a matter of taste and I wouldn't want to legislate that. But I do think there's room for some critical thought about what we're doing with what we buy and what we make.
I've been thinking more about this as I prepare to reopen my
shop. Of course I'm guilty of sometimes thinking of making things because I know they'll sell--but I'm held back usually by my lack of interest in those projects. In the larger scope, though, I'm not interested in just adding 'junk' to the world.
I know this is kind of a taboo thing--we're supposed to say everything is equal, it's all good, it's all fine, and I struggle with the non-democracy of my thoughts here. But I also think some kind of honest discourse about why I (we?) make things, why I (we?) buy them, and what the nature and purpose of gift-giving is is necessary. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts, too.